If you talk to parents about parenting, you’ll hear many of them express this sentiment: The biological imperative to love your offspring is what enables many children to survive childhood. When primates are small and mostly helpless, biologically-induced love works reasonably well, but many parents struggle with the relationship after the helpless (and cute) stage. […]

In my practice, I’ve worked with people whose relationships aren’t going so well. Time and again, some of these difficulties are caused by beliefs about relationships. Here are three common relationship myths and what to do about them. Myth #1: Relationships happen spontaneously The belief that you’ll be walking along one day and the heavens […]

I’m often asked about the difference between D/s, M/s, and O/p relationships, frequently with an added comment like, “They’re basically the same thing, right?” Or “ Isn’t it just a question of degree?” As is the case with many “straightforward“ questions, these are surprisingly complex issues. For one thing, in the real world of BDSM […]

Next time you visit your grocery store, take note of your relationship to produce. What do you look for? What are your expectations? Consider this: We’re doing to fruits and vegetables what we do to relationships. We’ve gradually come to expect produce to look like the glossy, air-brushed pics in magazines, and we think we […]